A Final Push – My GoFundme Campaign

I wanted to say first, thank you all to those who have already donated towards upgrading The Bipolar Writer Collaborative blog to the business level. There have been some fantastic large donations and also amaing small donations that have brought us closer, but we are still not quite there–as of today we have made over 300 dollars, which is really amazing! I think this final push will help us finally achieve our goal.

Always Keep Fighting!

What is the Goal?

The next level. Upgrading The Bipolar Writer blog to the business level for the next year and a half. This will give the blog more options on getting the collaborative work out there into the world. I also want a place where authors can showcase and sell their work on here (I am working on how this will be possible.) At the end of the day, the ultimate goal is to spread the stories and experiences of those in the mental illness blogging community with the world and end the stigma.

https://www.gofundme.com/rasing-to-upgrade-the-bipolar-writer-blog

This blog has always been self-funded by my own money, but the community has also helped me with funding from time to time. Every penny that I raise is going towards this blog and spreading the many stories that feature on this blog. It takes just small donations (significant donations are also welcome) and with the 11,100 plus followers of this blog donating 2-3 dollars we can finally reach the goal! The final goal will be $425. 

You can also help my spreading the word by clicking the reblog button or sharing this blog post on twitter or facebook.

My GoFundme

https://www.gofundme.com/rasing-to-upgrade-the-bipolar-writer-blog

There are other ways to donate

PayPal

This is another excellent way to donate, and to do so just press Pay with PayPal and you can choose to give a minimum of $2.00 (you can decide how much based on the number of donations, so 3 times would be 2 x 3 and you would donate six dollars.) 

Venmo – 831-287-4369

I don’t mind sharing my number (I have before several times in the past.)

That is it. I am hoping to raise enough money by this weekend. 

James Edgar Skye

How Depression Feels

After the successful results of our last how-to article, “Depression for Dummies,” I felt a continuation of similar advice might be helpful. I may have decided this after yet another conversation with my loving, wonderful, clueless husband.

Thing is, non-crazies do not understand how we think. They are not living inside us, feeling the things we feel or thinking what we think or assuming what we assume after someone says something. They are inside them, usually feeling pretty darn good.

Lucky.

So, drag that fortunate spouse, significant other, friend, boss, or coworker over here. I’m going to teach them what it feels like to be depressed.

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First, class, you need to get really uncomfortable. Don’t shower and don’t brush your teeth for five days. At least. On top of that, I’m going to need you to roll around in some mud and let it harden in uncomfortable places. Finally, put on some clothes that do not fit right and make you think you look like a muddy, fat elephant who hasn’t visited the watering hole in five days.

Did you do all that? Good! Now onto Step Two:

During or after your five days dirtying the outside, I want you to work on the inside. Eat foods that are bad for you like candy, soda pop, Taco Bell, and Lima beans. I don’t want to go too far, so I’m not going to encourage anything harder. Simply eating poorly ought to do it.

Are you with me so far? Excellent.

Next, you need to contract some kind of virus. No one wants you actually dying, so aim for a bad cough or for that cold that’s going around.

Feeling bad yet? You only think you are.

Lastly, I want you to sit in front of a mirror and tell yourself that you are ugly. You eat like a pig. You are sick. On top of all that, you are worthless and no one likes you.

Are you feeling something now? Something sad? Congratulations! -because you have touched the surface of the ongoing mindset that is Depression. Whenever you want to say something ‘helpful’ in the future like, “This will pass,” “You have great potential; why don’t you use it?,” or “Why would you feel depressed?,” remember what all of this felt like. Maybe you’ll say a more encouraging, empathetic phrase, instead.

Maybe you’ll just listen, and give the depressed person some chocolate.

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Now, I’m not heartless enough to leave anyone down as far as we went, so you can’t leave until we reverse everything we did today. In fact, all of you people hiding in your closets and corners feeling depressed: come over here and do it, too.

First, I want you to get up, take off the uncomfortable clothes that make you feel fat and ugly, and go take the most awesome and refreshing shower you’ve ever experienced. Feel the warm water stimulate your happy nerves as you watch muddy elephant runoff slide down the drain.

Feeling somewhat better? Keep going.

Next, I want you to make the healthiest food that you enjoy and eat it. I’d go for an excellent, nutritious sandwich or shake. Whatever you choose ought to have whole foods, a few food groups, and definitely vegetables.
Brush your teeth afterwards and revel in the minty fresh taste of your smiling mouth.

You’re still with me, right? It gets better:

Go visit a doctor or take some over-the-counter medications to help with your cold symptoms. I really am sorry I recommended that you contract one; they’re the worst. Rest and breathing exercises help as well.

Did you do all of the steps so far? We’re nearly finished!

Get back over to your mirror and sit down. With a nice amount of natural light around, I want you to apologize for saying nasty things. I want you to say the following, instead: “I am good enough; I am smart enough; and doggone it, people like me for me.” Pull up some good Cognitive Behavioral Therapy programs on your phone and run through a few.

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I’d say you should feel right as rain about now, but I’m more honest than that. If you followed all of the recommended steps then I am certain you feel a lot better, but I am also certain that you remember how you felt when you were depressed.

That’s because, during Depression, we tell ourselves some pretty damaging things; things that don’t wash down a drain or disappear when we turn on the light.

But they do diminish. Some days, they almost disappear. With the support of our (now) less-clueless friends and significant others, you will get better. And that’s worth fighting for.

 

Photo Credits:
Miguel Henriques
Jordane Mathieu

Idea Topics for February

As January 2019 ends and February 2019 begins, we will be ending a strong month of January for The Bipolar Writer blog. I always like to start the month off by asking what the mental health topics you would like me to write about on my blog. This blog is all about inclusive and a safe place for people to talk about mental health.

If you have a topic in mind leave a comment below. I am also open to a guest blog post and increasing my contributor writer. If you’re interested, please email me @ jamesedgarskye22@gmail.com

Always Keep Fighting

James

Photo by Jasmine Waheed on Unsplash

The Bipolar Writer Needs Help… Again

https://www.gofundme.com/rasing-to-upgrade-the-bipolar-writer-blog

This is my GoFundMe under my real name David TC (I wasn’t sure if I could get the funds if I used my Pen Name James Edgar Skye.) Thank you in advance for donating!


So, my goal is $300. The cost to upgrade. If 100 people donate 3 dollars, I can reach my goal quickly (the donation button is below through PayPal.) I am going to try and keep this post going all weekend in hopes that I reach my goal. Please, if you can help it would be amazing, and if you can’t, I understand. I haven’t done one of these in a while, so here it goes!

If you can’t donate please reblog this post or share my GoFundMe link above, it would mean the world to me!

You Can Also Donate Below!

Just Click the Pay with PayPal button!

Always Keep Fighting & Thank You

James

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An Awesome Achievement!!!

I wanted to share a special achievement for The Bipolar Writer blog.

I was told by WordPress that I have reached 10,000 plus followers. Wow. I never imagined about a year ago that this blog would get to this point. I started this blog to share my experiences with Bipolar One, and talk about my brand–The Bipolar Writer.

I never imagined that this thing that I started would take off. I figured that after a month things would change to a point where I would get bored. This wasn’t my first blog.

I am amazed every day that I get to wake up and know that my blog is making a difference in the mental health community. To all the contributor writers, thank you. For all that are following, thank you. It has been an honor to be sharing my experiences with you. To many more amazing people finding this blog!

James

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Good Morning

I’ve always had trouble sleeping, since I was a little kid. My father used to tell me to just close my eyes and lay there, that eventually that would have me fall asleep. It was easy for him to say, as that worked almost instantly for him, every single time. Yet, it never seemed to work for me, ever. Because of my inability to sleep well, I have never been a morning person. Each and every day that I woke up, in general, just meant to me that I had to struggle through another day. Thanks to depression, my sleep was stolen away, as were my reasons to get out of bed. I think that is why I rarely ever say good morning. When I have to obligatorily respond to people who wish me a good morning, I will usually just respond, “Morning”. As the morning for me is never good, I didn’t sleep enough, or I don’t feel like living. Mornings are generally rough for me, even after I started taking medications to sleep. I usually look for drowsiness as a side effect in my meds, so that I can take them all at night in the hopes that getting to sleep will be easier. While getting to sleep, with the meds, has indeed gotten easier, I seem to have found a new problem that is affecting my sleep. I am waking up in the middle of the night, sometimes numerous times a night. Luckily I can usually get back to sleep pretty easily, only if I wake up in the middle of the night. If I wake up, say around the time I’m actually supposed to get up, I’ll just stay up and lose that hour or so of sleep. I’ve written an article about how sleep is one of the most important things for fighting depression, and it’s just simply the truth. Sleep is one of the first things that depression will take away from you, because of how important good sleep is. Needless to say, if I don’t get good sleep, than my morning has no chance of being good. I’ve always been a very literal person like that. I guess it’s my secret way of letting people know that there’s something wrong with me. Yet to this day, I’ve never been asked why I didn’t say good in good morning. So I guess either people don’t care enough, or they don’t understand that I’m leaving out good on purpose.

Yours

Wolfgang


Also as a quick side note, I’m going to be starting ECT treatment in a month or so, and will be detailing my treatment on my personal blog The Smiles We Bear so go an follow me to never miss an update!

The Mental Health Circuit

When I was younger, I was brutally shoved into what I call the “Mental Health Circuit” of seeing doctors and therapists like there was no tomorrow. Of course I mean I did seriously try to kill myself, so this was completely justified. Still to this day I can’t believe how many bad doctors and therapists I saw. Ones that really only cared about their paycheck and not about me. That was of course until I found my first truly great therapist, Melissa. I found out through her that I greatly improve from being brutally and honestly challenged. There wasn’t a session that I saw here that she didn’t literally call bullshit on my way of thinking. Believe it or not, it really helped. I was so dead set on my ways that I never really believed that what I was thinking was wrong.

In this mental health life, a truly great therapist can make all the difference, and I’ve had a very select few. One did betray my trust and used confidential information when I was faced with the police, but I’ve since forgiven her, as it most likely saved my life. It can take years to find a therapist that really listens to you, especially when you say that you have a way of therapy that works best. Most therapists are unable to leave the comfort zone in the way that they were taught, and work a different way just to help you. When you find someone who does their absolute best to try and help you, hold onto that person and never let go. I’ve since found another therapist that challenges me like Melissa did, and I really like to think that seeing her does greatly benefit me in almost every way.

The real trick is finding this person, because there are a lot of bad therapists out there, and they most certainly will take your money until you figure out they aren’t working for you. So my advice as someone who has been around “The Mental Health Circuit” one too many times, is take your time in selecting your therapist and and your psychiatrist, because you really only need one good one (of each) that you can rely on in your time of need. Not anybody that doesn’t listen to you and tries to shove meds down your throat. The unfortunate truth is that meds don’t always work, it took me years to find one med that really did, and then having to live with the side effects was really challenging. In the end though, it was really worth the wait, the painstaking trial and error, just to get a good therapist, doctor and med combo. As now, I really feel like there is progress to be made in my own life. So I know for a fact that you are not a lost cause! You just need to find people that will truly work with and for you. It’ll probably be one of the hardest things you have ever done, but I assure you, it is definitely worth it.

Yours,

Wolfgang


If you want to read more by me, check out and follow my personal blog The Smiles We Bear

Changing the Domain Name Here

This blog post is not “mental health” update. Instead, this is an update for The Bipolar Writer Collaborative blog and its writers, readers, and collaborators.

As of today, the domain name for this blog will change to thebipolarwriter.blog

You will still be able to find the blog under jamesedgarskye.com but I eventually that will be moved to a created author site.

Thank you for continuing to use The Bipolar Writer a “safe place” to share your mental health journey.

Always Keep Fighting

James

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A Non-Mental Health Blog Post

How I Grew The Bipolar Writer Mental Health Collaborative Blog

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I have been asked by email over the last week what it takes to build a blog like The Bipolar Writer blog. I will first admit I took a class as part of my bachelor’s degree that taught me a lot about growing a brand through a blog. I made the decision to have this blog as both a place to share my experiences and my writing.

A Brand Name

The first thing that I did was come up with my brand. For a long time I thought of myself as “The Bipolar Writer” because it was who I am– both writer and living with Bipolar One disorder. The brand is valuable on so many levels.

Having a domain name vs. a free WordPress blog

Success comes down to the willingness to spend some money to grow your blog. I knew from my past experiences that just having a blog is not enough– no matter how good the content is that you are writing. The first thing that someone does comes to your blog, so it has to look good. With a premium account, you get a domain name and the quality themes.

Always have pictures in your “featured image”

There are fantastic free photo sites out there for all the non-photographer bloggers out there for you to use. I use unsplash.com because it gives me the opportunity to get quality pictures and to give credit to the photographer. Images make all the difference in a post at least in my opinion.

Titles

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I am by no means an expert at writing the most catchy titles every time out when writing a blog post. It is the first thing that a potential reader sees, so make those titles a good as possible.

A Collaborative Blog

Creating a safe place where people could share their own experiences with mental illness alongside my own changed this blog forever. Working with others is a good thing.

Have Series on Your Blog

One of the best parts of blogging is the series that you can start. My favorite is my “Interview Feature series” that shows the many sides of mental health. Series gives you an opportunity to share different things. My second favorite series here is my music series.

Be the Real You

My last piece of advice is perhaps the one I learned the most over the past year of growing my blog– be yourself. I started two blogs before The Bipolar Writer blog. I came off as an expert who thought he knew everything about mental illness. I came off pretentious and kind of a no it all.

So, when I started this blog, I decided to be me, and share my entire journey no matter how hard the topic was to talk about because at the end of the day people know when you are genuine.

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Emma Matthews

Topics of Discussion – October on The Bipolar Writer Blog

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It is Fall!! I love this time of year because the coffee selection goes through the roof. Just in time too because I am getting back into the groove of school, and coffee is life.

So, what shall we talk about in October?

These posts have been helpful in the past so it is great to open the floor to my fellow followers and bloggers to what topics the Bipolar Writer should discuss here. I would love your feedback.

Interview Features – The Series

I want to also open up my series of interview features again, so if you would like to be featured on The Bipolar Writer blog, please email me @ jamesedgarskye22@gmail.com for more info and the list of questions. I’d love to add more interviews by the end of the year.

With that said, I look forward to hearing from you my followers and to have the most amazing October.

James

Always Keep Fighting

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Veliko Karachiviev