Mental illness sucks.
That’s the summation of my thoughts, usually after a depressive spiral. It’s what I think when a good friend loses a job because of a schizophrenic episode. It’s my answer when another friend hits the low part of his bipolar cycle. It’s the phrase I mutter in response to people’s suicidal thoughts, lack of desire to do anything, or expressions of overall sadness.
Not only do we all experience the side effects of our mental issues, we also get no support whatsoever from our own minds. When enveloped in the venom of negative thoughts that mental illness supplies, we hear things like:
You’re a terrible person …with specific reasons.
No one likes you …complete with names.
Whatever you try fails …including examples.
No one can help you. No one wants to help you.
All of these Wormtongue-spoken messages are not true. In fact, the last one is the most not-true. There are plenty of people who can help. Heck; there are strange people who voluntarily went to school and paid a lot of money in order to listen to others’ mental health problems all day.
I speak of counselors or therapists. I speak of psychologists. To some extent, I speak of psychiatrists as well. They have all chosen a career, voluntarily, to listen to crazy people like you and me.
Uh-oh: negative-thought brain is talking again:
They don’t really want to help you. They’re just doing it for their job …with examples of friends or relatives who’ve complained about a bad experience.
It’s impossible to find one who’ll be good …with reasons why your issues are a special case.
You can’t afford a counselor …with a list of your expenses.
Guess what, brain! They really do want to help you. Granted, there must be therapists who are terrible. There must be some who are in it for the money. If you ask around and/or read online reviews, however, you’re likely to weed out the bad ones. After all, these weirdos did choose their job. In my experience, they did so because they wanted to help people.
Plus, the costs might be manageable. Depending on where you live, some of those strange people who can and want to help are cheap or free. Some are covered by job insurance plans, others by government programs, and still others by ecclesiastical assistance.
Don’t be afraid to ask around, get a good listening ear, and get going on your life!
You are important. You are worth any cost.