It’s Time The Bipolar Writer Talks to Men About Men’s Mental Health

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I have something that has been on my mind for a while. I have hosted two “Community Mental health Discussions” on Zoom, alongside a fellow blogger. I am a moderator for a discord chat with the same name. One glaring thing has become clear during these chats. None of the bloggers or mental illness sufferers that are men have expressed interest in becoming a part of the conversation. I ask myself, why is this? Guys we have to have a talk.

“Men’s mental health and mental illness” discussions should not be a separate thing. Still, it’s becoming clear that either I am doing something wrong and not being inclusive to all members of the mental illness community . Or that guys in the mental illness community would rather sit behind the scenes. For me, I think it’s the latter, but that defeats the purpose of why the community together can end the stigma surrounding mental illness.

I get it to some degree. “We’re guys we are supposed to be tough.” Hell, I have been the type of guy that said that guys just don’t do mental health. A common sentiment, but I decided the folly of that way of thinking. I now come from the school of thought of being authentic in what I write. I want to implore guys to become a part of the conversation.

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I love the idea of this picture because it often said that “boys don’t get sad.” That is where things tend to go. There is this macho attitude that guys don’t cry, and I am here to say that is not true.

Mental illness is this thing that can control you. As someone who deals with Bipolar disorder, I deal with the extreme levels of depression and mania. I cried the night that of my first suicide. I cried when I lost my mom. I have been in such a bad state of depression that I cried about the mess that was my life. It was liberating. It comes to the eventual next step, and we need to talk about why this idea has become the norm of guys don’t cry.

What I seek is to start a dialogue here within the confines of this blog post. I have and always be authentic when it comes to this blog. I want to bring light to men’s mental health because it’s important to me as an advocate. What I am seeing is that men are not willing to be a part of the conversation.

I am hoping that this blog post will ruffle some feathers and that men will call me out and say I am wrong. Challenge me on what I am seeing! That will be the perfect thing. I want to see what men think about what I have said because we have to end the stereotypes that come with men’s mental health. Let us have a real conversation!

If you would like to join my “Community Mental health Discussions” Zoom meeting then please reach out guys to let your voice be heard. I also open it to all members of the mental illness community. The Zoom meeting is this Saturday at 2pm.

Always Keep Fighting

James

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Introduction

If you have ever ridden a roller coaster, you understand the excitement and fear that courses through your mind and body as you burst through the track. You experience such an intense jolt of so many emotions as your breath is stolen from falling and you only have enough time to take another breath as you ascend. In a lot of ways, bipolar disorder seems to share many similarities. It seems to change a person drastically in mere moments and can even span episodes for days at a time. You never know how you will feel when you wake up in the morning. You never know what will happen to send you spiraling into a depressive episode. I often like to call it a “Jekyll and Hyde” effect in my personal blog.

I am Shelton Fisher and recently I have been given the privilege to be a contributing writer for The Bipolar Writer. I am a 25 year old with a full time job, an amazing wife, and the two best dogs in the world. I used to be a decent musician and writing has become a passion of mine. Amid the wonderful things that life has provided for me, I have mental health issues that fight me tooth and nail on a regular basis. Anxiety has been a familiar part of my life since I was a child, but alcoholism and panic attacks made me realize that I needed to finally address these problem medically. In September of last year I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder and began a regimen of serotonin inhibitors and recently I have began seeing a therapist. After several sessions addressing my childhood behaviors and my current behaviors, we have discussed that I may be bipolar and the symptoms honestly surprised me.

As I continue the journey into my mental health to confirm a diagnosis and discover how to live a better life, I want to include you through personal stories, free verse poetry, and the occasional informative post. I am not a professional by any means, but I am living proof that mental health is a war to be won. If you have ever been afraid to speak, afraid to make a move, lost motivation and hope, hurt yourself because you couldn’t find the right words or felt trapped inside your body, screamed at the top of your lungs with tears rolling down your boiling red cheeks, self medicated with alcohol or drugs, fallen into depression for no apparent reason, or just want to know how I am handling things, my posts are for you.

Why the Mental Illness Community Should Share Their Story

Over the last three months, I have shared more about my life than ever imagined was possible. It has been the most therapeutic experience in my life.

In the past week, I have started to begin the process of expanding The Bipolar Writer into sharing other bloggers stories with their mental illness in the form of feature articles.

Before that, I want to talk about why we should never be afraid to tell our mental health story. I understand that not everyone is in a place where they can share every aspect of their story at this point, but when you are ready you should consider opening up on even on the most controversial topics.

I think the best thing I have done in 2017 was finding my place writing on my blog where I can share my life. I can write here, and expand later in my memoir. It’s like beta testing topics and getting the feedback that I need.

But beyond that, I never imagined that the therapeutic process of blogging my mental illness life could have so many positive effects on my daily life.

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The other part of sharing your story is that it helps take away the negative stigma that comes with having a mental illness. I used to believe that being Bipolar was a bad thing a long time ago. I fed into the negative stigma and hid my writing from the world. But as I began writing my screenplay, my blog, and now my memoir it has given me a new perspective.

What I have learned from my fellow bloggers is there are so many like-minded people that want to share their story. We all have our own unique perspective to share within the mental illness community. I can share my story, and it may parallel your own, but you may have something different to add to the same topic because you went a different route.

I can’t imagine giving up my blog because I have met so many amazing bloggers along the way that can empathize with my own plight. I think together we can band together and work towards changing how people who have never been in our shoes look at us. One word at a time.

With that said, what are some of the most important subjects that we should be writing about on our blogs?

Always Keep Fighting.

J.E. Skye

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