There have been many things I have learned throughout two decades of stumbling, and crashing and eventually living and thriving with mental illness. As we know, acceptance is the first step in recovery. Acceptance comes in many forms. There is the acceptance of your diagnosis and the realizations of losses– some of them temporary and some of them permanent and only time will tell that.
As your world constantly changes, you must accept that your identity and the way people see you and view you may change. That was a hard one for me. Some of my views of how people saw me was caused by my own self stigmatizing and assuming people thought less of me when I had no idea if they really did. I think we all need to be increasingly aware of self stigmatization because it can be damaging and worsen symptoms and recovery. It took me years to figure out that I was self stigmatizing.
One thing to remember is that joy is always possible. Don’t think it is only possible after you get better. Look and search far and wide for the small joys that are available to you. There are some and in fact there are many. They are there.
One key to living well with mental illness is learning how to BE EFFECTIVE IN YOUR PRESENT CIRCUMSTANCES – no matter what they are.
You must figure out what your purpose is for that moment in time. There is always a purpose. You always matter and you are always here for a reason. Maybe it is just to survive this moment because future moments will be better. Maybe it is to give a person a smile and make them feel better. Maybe your spot in line will change and improve another’s person day and situation for the better. There are so many little things we never think of, but each one is important.
For instance, when you stand up dominoes to align so they will will all strategically fall one after the other after the first one is nudged, each one of those dominoes must line up perfectly for the ripple effect to work successfully. Each one of us is necessary and important for our environments to be successful. We all have a purpose and are necessary dominoes in this life and world. If just one of us is missing or out of alignment, it disrupts our family, group of friends or any setting we are in.
Find your purpose and search for joy. I know living with mental illness makes this seem like it is impossible, but I guarantee that if you choose not to look at all you will definitely never find it. We must stay on the positive side of life. I know this now because I wasted many days, months and years seeing the negative side of life. I realize now that it made much of my life worse. I know today looking back that there were so many beautiful moments and bubbles of joy I missed out on.
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” ~Maya Angelou
With recovery there will be occasional setbacks, but the comeback is the important step. After each setback the comebacks become easier. Soon you won’t have so far to travel to come back after the setback. Eventually you will have a beautiful, new and improved destination. Each day joy and peace will become easier to attain and closer to your everyday existence. It will become part of your of life.
Keep your heart and mind open to the goodness around you. Soon you will find all the goodness and joy that surrounds you. When you find it and hold onto joy you can share it with others. Call someone, visit or send an old fashioned letter, an email or text to brighten someone’s day. When you brighten someone’s day it will help brighten your own day. The ripple effect of sharing joy and love is contagious.
~Written by Susan Walz
“If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.” ~Maya Angelou
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Thank you.
Copyright © 2020 by Susan Walz of My Loud Whispers of Hope
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Thank you for the reblog. I appreciate it and always find that to be the greatest compliment. Take care, be well and be safe.
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“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” ~Maya Angelou Great quote.
Great to see your fighting spirit, important not to let circumstances get the best of us. To forward forward and do the best that we can.
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Thank you. Yes. I love Maya Angelou. She is one of my favorite writers. Thank you for reading and for your great feedback. I appreciate it and YOU. Take and be well and safe.
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Stay strong and God bless you
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Thank you. I appreciate you.
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Thank you for the word, now I know that acceptance is the first step to recovery. God bless you 🙏🏽
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Thank you. Thank you for reading and commenting. I appreciate it greatly. Take care, be well, and be safe.
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Congrats on your book!! Shame has eaten away at mine as well.
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Thank you and yes shame is definitely a soul eating emotion. Thanks for reading and commenting. I always appreciate you.
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Everything you have said here is so true. It has taken me most of my life to figure out everything you have just described. I’m glad you’ve been able to put it all into words so eloquently. If you don’t mind, I’d like to borrow some of what you’ve said when I launch my own blog/website “It’s All In My Head” later this month.
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Hello. Thank you for the very kind words. I appreciate it greatly. It means a lot to me. I am sorry I was so slow to respond back but been very busy lately. I find it to be the best compliment when people reblog my post or parts of it. You may most definitely use my thoughts on you new blog. You can reblog the whole post or parts of it if you would. Please just quote my words and give me credit and/or reference to my blog. I appreciate it. Please let me know when your blog is up and running. I look forward to reading it. Thanks again. Much love, Sue
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your blog reflects the positivity… and it gives people motivation to focus on the brighter side. Yes everything has a purpose and I really agree to that… we just have to discover it.
Stay strong, God bless and thank you… ❤️❤️❤️ take care always ❤️❤️❤️
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Thank you for reading and for your great feedback. I appreciate it greatly. Much love, Sue
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