I have something that has been on my mind for a while. I have hosted two “Community Mental health Discussions” on Zoom, alongside a fellow blogger. I am a moderator for a discord chat with the same name. One glaring thing has become clear during these chats. None of the bloggers or mental illness sufferers that are men have expressed interest in becoming a part of the conversation. I ask myself, why is this? Guys we have to have a talk.
“Men’s mental health and mental illness” discussions should not be a separate thing. Still, it’s becoming clear that either I am doing something wrong and not being inclusive to all members of the mental illness community . Or that guys in the mental illness community would rather sit behind the scenes. For me, I think it’s the latter, but that defeats the purpose of why the community together can end the stigma surrounding mental illness.
I get it to some degree. “We’re guys we are supposed to be tough.” Hell, I have been the type of guy that said that guys just don’t do mental health. A common sentiment, but I decided the folly of that way of thinking. I now come from the school of thought of being authentic in what I write. I want to implore guys to become a part of the conversation.
I love the idea of this picture because it often said that “boys don’t get sad.” That is where things tend to go. There is this macho attitude that guys don’t cry, and I am here to say that is not true.
Mental illness is this thing that can control you. As someone who deals with Bipolar disorder, I deal with the extreme levels of depression and mania. I cried the night that of my first suicide. I cried when I lost my mom. I have been in such a bad state of depression that I cried about the mess that was my life. It was liberating. It comes to the eventual next step, and we need to talk about why this idea has become the norm of guys don’t cry.
What I seek is to start a dialogue here within the confines of this blog post. I have and always be authentic when it comes to this blog. I want to bring light to men’s mental health because it’s important to me as an advocate. What I am seeing is that men are not willing to be a part of the conversation.
I am hoping that this blog post will ruffle some feathers and that men will call me out and say I am wrong. Challenge me on what I am seeing! That will be the perfect thing. I want to see what men think about what I have said because we have to end the stereotypes that come with men’s mental health. Let us have a real conversation!
If you would like to join my “Community Mental health Discussions” Zoom meeting then please reach out guys to let your voice be heard. I also open it to all members of the mental illness community. The Zoom meeting is this Saturday at 2pm.
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