Why Not You?


Not Me….but Why Not?…someday 🙂 Photo by Pixabay


Believing in yourself, your mission and your heart is not just a meme we find on social media, but the real deal, and once you commit to those beliefs, you can achieve more than you think you can ~ Lisa J. 

I have been pretty MIA from this blog lately and while I’m sad about that it’s been for good reason — pursuing my dream of one day being a published author. I do however, want to express my deep gratitude to James for continuing to allow me this platform, and for all who read. Never give up on you, and never give up on your dreams, make them real by believing in them, and you, everyday 🙂

I had a different post in mind just a few minutes ago, but it’s funny how our paths sometime lead us in a way we don’t even realize. As you may already know, I have started a pretty exciting journey in the world of writing, specifically children’s books. This along with my subject of today, was something I never expected to step into, and while that is a story in itself, it is not the reason behind this post. This post is actually about how sometimes, even when we are confident in our walk, we tend to get distracted by the outside world that, at times, begs the question…Why Me? 

This question can rear it’s ugly head in various chapters of our lives, especially during the hard times. We find ourselves asking out loud or in a whisper to our higher power, the universe as a whole or whoever will listen, Why Me? I won’t lie, I have had this question weigh on my heart many times, and in those thoughts the emotions that overtake me consist of mostly anger, the feelings of unjustness, and the repetitive notion that I need an answer.

Unfortunately, even in these low moments, the moments that can break us, the moments that can make us question our faith, our love and even contemplate the reasons behind it all, what we don’t realize, the answer to Why Me is always Why Not? 

It feels so harsh, but it’s true, and while maybe I will post more elaborately about this side of things, the above serves as more of an introduction to a more positive point, give me just two more minutes…If this is true for all the times we feel we get the short of the stick, doesn’t that mean it can be flipped to answer the same question in a different context? The answer…Why Not?

That’s where I was tonight. I had typed in a title for a different post altogether when I got distracted (which happens often, ;)) and I found myself engrossed in yet another publisher’s website reading submission guidelines word for word and paging through the bios of author after author. Suddenly I felt myself slipping into that same mentality, “Look at all these crazy talented writers, they’ve been doing this forever, that’s not me, Why would they choose Me?” 

I know I’m not alone with these thoughts. Have you ever seen a successful person, or a person doing exactly what you’ve only dreamed about doing, and think to yourself, “Wow, how nice for them, I’ll never see that kind of success, why would I ever think that could be me?” Don’t be shy, you can nod, it’s ok, we all do it. It’s self-doubt, or this insane idea that successful, in every definition of success, people are superhuman not of this earth. What we don’t realize is that the answer is always the same…WHY NOT? 

If you really want to dive deep into this subject, I can go on and on about how we may not always be a direct cause for the negative or positive in our lives, but we are absolute contributors, that is not why I write this post. My point and my message to not just you, but to myself, is if we can ask ourselves the question, Why Me, why can’t the answer be the same for both scenarios. WHY NOT? 

So next time you catch yourself daydreaming about that dream job, that mountain to climb, creating every day, loving, laughing, enjoying life to the fullest in whatever way is the most true for you, and you start to ask yourself , Why Me? Before you spiral into the ocean of self pity and excuses, respond with the only answer that can set you free from the envy and the anger…WHY NOT? The catch however, is once you answer this question within your heart, the true test is what you do next.

Why Me? Why You? Well, because Why Not? is only the first statement to the story of your dreams and when you believe it in you, what you once thought was impossible becomes more possible than you could have ever imagined. 

Much Love, 

Lisa J.



28 thoughts on “Why Not You?

  1. It is so beautiful to see such loving words from anyone these days — especially from those who are challenged with mental illness. (I’m bi-polar, as well). And yes, you are absolutely right about including ones self into the big picture of possibilities! I would lovingly add, however, that by doing so, one has to prepare for the diligence and the work it is going to take swing dance with the Universe — that wind is so strong, it can take you anywhere if you don’t brace yourself! Adventures now and again are what make life interesting, yes? And what teachers they are, too…

    As for this: “…the moments that can break us,” I must lovingly contest. I believe in my heart that no one is “broken,” as the word implies that we can no longer function, which is death. I believe that if we are still breathing, still fighting, still feeling, then we may be damaged, but never broken.

    Maybe it’s my own stubbornness — my own, “Why not?” voice that makes me feel that way. 🙂

    Peace to you!!
    T. Ray

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    • Thank you for you beautiful words and while I am not bipolar I have suffered from depression most of my life.

      I absolutely agree that we must prepare ourselves for the work ahead, but if we continue to believe in the true nature of who we are and what we are capable we can succeed despite the storms.

      You are very right and I commend your stubbornness, while we may feel broken at the time it does not mean the end 🧡 peace to you as well 🦋 Lisa

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  2. Our illnesses don’t define us. Mental illness does not need to cripple us. Therapy has helped me to see beyond it. My goals are in sight. I know that it is possible. Thirty years of depression and anxiety can be managed when we can see our purpose and understand that the trials we have been through have taught us resilience. I wish you strength and peace.

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    • I absolutely 100% agree that any illness does not define us and thank you, it has taken much internal work for me as well to see beyond the darkness and wish you peace and strength in your journey 🧡

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      • I hope that I don’t imply that overcoming the debilitative issues is easy. It has been 30 years with multiple breakdowns and some psychotic breaks for me. I have also had some drastic treatments including 30 ECT’s and an implanted VNS. I do want to encourage using whatver energy one has toward betterment of mental health. I see too many people who give in and give up. Living with the illness and minimizing its effect can be done. Investing in ourselves is essential. Fighting the cognitive distiortions and damaged core beliefs will prove that we can be the best we can be and goals can be reached. Blessings.

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      • I didn’t take it that way at all, just the opposite actually. We all experience our journey to bettering our mental health in various ways and I felt your comment was encouraging and gave one hope that it is a possible. Thank you 🧡

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  3. You are so right, Lisa!
    Absolutely, why not?
    Often, when things went horribly wrong, I would ask the Universe, “Why me?” Then, one day, I read somewhere that when things go wonderfully with us, we never ask “Why me?”, do we? This sentence gave me a jolt and since then I have stopped questioning, “Why me?” It’s these tough times that help us grow into better human beings, the kind we were destined to be, and therefore, “Why not me?” 🙂
    Lovely post!

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  4. I loved what you wrote so much <3. I'm always second-guessing and feeling small even if by chance I aspire/ask for more these days. Reassuring to know that there are people who were on the same boat and came out of the rut successfully. Thanks for the inspiration.

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  5. Such a lovely post. I was going through some negative emotions lately and I was actually judging myself based on who i am. This post made me a little more better. Now that I can tell myself, why not? whenever I feel so down. Thank you! ❤️

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