I feel protective over my “enemies”

I feel like a hypocrite writing this post.

Few weeks back, I wrote about how I do not want to be treated “special” because I suffer from a “rare” mental disorder, OCD.

Often times, I get a response like “That’s a real thing?!” along with a stare like I am some kind of a zoo animal.

But recently, I experienced something different.

I was talking to a group of people about my journey of mental illness. These people are not at all familiar with psychiatric disorders, so I don’t blame them for their lack of knowledge in this area.

But, is it weird that I got extremely “offended” when they started to say, “I hope your anxiety gets better” or “I remember you said you suffer from anxiety!”

Well, OCD USE to be part of an anxiety disorder before the diagnostic criteria changed, but not anymore. But that’s not the point here.

I clearly shared I struggle with mild depression and OCD. But why are these people saying anxiety instead? OCD and Depression have their own names?

Is this abnormal for me to have this kind of a response? I am not sure.

I don’t know why, but I feel defensive over my own “enemies.” This is not to say those who have official diagnoses with anxiety disorders have it any easier. It is to say that what I struggle with is not necessarily identified as anxiety disorders.

Has anyone had the same experience? Or am I a true hypocrite for feeling this way?

19 thoughts on “I feel protective over my “enemies”

  1. No no, this is a thing. I often feel like saying ‘Do your research’ in the most obnoxious and insolent Sherlock-voice whenever someone says something stupid about depression or anxiety or other allied mental disorders. It’s all right. People do need to be a little more informed. But if you have clarified to them that depression and OCD are not anxiety, probably you have already made them better informed, those who at least cared enough to hope that your ‘anxiety’ gets better? Let’s be hopeful on that. If we don’t protect our enemies’ identity, how will we fight the big dark cloud they’ll create? 😊

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  2. I completely understand what you mean, even though I have not experienced patronising comments.

    I have been diagnosed with depression since I was 13 (10 years ago) and anxiety since I ws 20. They are two completely different conditions which cannot be cured, however they can be controlled. I think it is normal to become protective of our ‘enemies’ because in a way, they protect us even though it causes us fear, upset, anger, etc. Mental health illnesses are not just a cold or a cough that will get better in a few days, it can be lifelong.

    Sorry for going on, your post really got me thinking!

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  3. No, it’s not weird at all … I think it just shows a lack of understanding on their part. I am very careful about whom I talk to about my depression for this very reason. The best people are those who have similar issues (for want of a better word’). We then can discuss at length and suddenly we seem to have found a soulmate in each other … now that’s perhaps a bit weird! But true for me! Lovely post. Katie x

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  4. Do you suppose that you have told them that you do suffer from anxiety? The DAM-5 does not list OCD as an anxiety disorder, but one of its diagnostic criteria is still, “The behaviors and mental activities are aimed at reducing stress or anxiety . . . .” It seems possible that you may have told them that you have obsessive-compulsive thoughts or actions because of anxiety, even if the diagnosis is in a different clinical cluster.

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  5. I think people associate anxiety with OCD as a result of the condition rather than a symptom. It is also worth considering that there are different types of OCD. I don’t think you’re a hypocrite, most people dislike being misunderstood. Although I do think it’s unreasonable to expect everyone to understand completely. Even two people with the same disorder can have experiences that are worlds apart. Why not gently correct them?

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  6. I totally understand. I try not to talk about my issues with anyone–it seems no one who has not had a mental health disorder can even begin to understand what it’s like. And they seem to always be skeptical. It can be upsetting, so I just avoid it.

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